Backstory
OK, with the holidays approaching, my web development company is planning its Christmas lunch for employees. A totally nice endeavor on their part, one which I am grateful for and happy to attend. However, they said it was at one of the restaurants I truly hate. I liken this restaurant to God coming down and building the perfect dining experience and sumptuous menu. The restaurant would be the exact opposite. So, anyway, I posted on Twitter (in a funny prayer) how I hoped the people who made that decision would have a change of heart. My bosses read my post and sent an email to everyone for voting on the venue (putting the blame on me – jokingly). Turns out no one else wanted to go to this h*ll hole either. Of course, I am now the scapegoat if one person doesn’t enjoy their meal (even though it was put to a vote and a unanimous decision to go). I’m cool with that.
You know me. I posted the change of venue on Twitter and got a few laughs from coworkers and friends. However, it was an IM that I got that made me think of what transpired. “You really have a lot of pull there,” is what I was sent in a casual conversation with a friend who does awesome web design work, sings one of my new favorite songs, and is possibly reading this post (so I have to make sure he gets a good ego-rub). His IM made me think. Most people would probably assume that I consented and gave myself a pat on the back. But I actually have been thinking about it a lot. Researching and reading stats and everything. I am the youngest person in the office, and my requests, which I think are demanding, are often entertained to my surprise.
Food for Thought
So back to the comment, “You really have a lot of pull over there.” As a twentysomething with no wife, kids, or major responsibility (away from church commitments), I am the last person that I would ever consider having ‘pull.’ However, as I said before, my requests and suggestions and ideas are entertained and often implemented. After reading blogs and articles over the past 2 days, I think it’s more the mentality of leadership and less ‘pull.’ Although, it would be cool to have some sort of “Millennial Anointing” that makes my older counterparts immediately bow their will to mine due to age and generational skillset alone. I might delve more into that in another post.
I think that it looks like I have ‘pull’ because I actually speak up. And many times when I speak up, there’s a group of people who share my sentiment but, for whatever reason, decided to toe the line of compliance and be content with going with the flow.
Some people would consider it tacky to let someone who’s trying to do something nice and go beyond their duty know that you don’t like what it is that they are giving. I disagree. You can humorously and/or respectfully let them know that you hate (very much so, in my case) some cuisine, or ingredient, or establishment without offending them. If they get offended anyway, were they really doing it out of the kindness of their heart? I would rather you just say “thanks” than make me suffer. It also happens that in this case, more people wanted a change just as much as I did. Do they hate the place like I do? No. They just would have opted for something else. Had I toed the line of compliance in silence, it would have bothered me for weeks, and I would have sat there in front of the company and not have supped with them. That’s rude, but such is life when you’re at a place you despise.
The truth is, we should all have “pull” in our respective places of employment and social circles. Pull not being some coercive manipulation you use to always get your way at the expense of the group’s advancement. But ‘pull’ in the sense that your ideas and suggestions matter. And every now and again, maybe your way is the best way for the group to go. It’s not about being right all the time. (It’s not that I’m always right; it’s just not in my character to be wrong
. But in speaking your mind and letting people know that “hey, I’m not cool with that,” you may be speaking for more than yourself. How revolutionary. We can all be revolutionaries!
The other part to ‘pull’ is, as I mentioned earlier, leadership mentality. If your management is not open to change or ideas from ‘subordinates,’ RUN!!! Ok, that might be easier said than done. But, really, you are in an antiquated corporate environment that is top-down and probably has a lot of politics. Your ideas, though valid and probably right, are not welcome. No change for you. Prayer is essential for these environments.
Well, I told that talented friend of mine from above that I had no pull but was enlightening my coworkers to the truth. Before you jump on your high horse and call me cocky, I’ll beat you to the punch. First, it was a joke. Second, it was the truth. I joke, and I’m confident. Due to that, I’m always going to appear spoiled, self-centered, and attention-whorish. Yep, I think I have already been accused of all 3. But, I think these are misinterpretations from old people who are like pushing 35. They wish they had this Millennial Anointing!